There’s a new Apple Support doc about AirPods updates
Spoiler: You’re doing it correctly already
If things go wrong, try, try again
Apple’s AirPods, AirPods Pro and AirPods Max aren’t like other Apple products: where iPhones, iPads and Macs update their software through a visible and straightforward process, Apple’s headphones are more mysterious. Or at least, they were until now.
At long last, Apple has clarified what you need to do to update the best AirPods of all kinds. And it’s simple: just wait for a full moon, turn out your pockets three times, and dance the dance of the AirPods update. If you’ve been good then the AirPods gods will smile upon you and bless your buds.